Invite Instead of Convince
Invite Instead of Convince
How much energy have you spent trying to convince people to see your value?
Convince them to sign up.
Convince them to listen.
Convince them to get it.
Convincing is exhausting, isn’t it? It’s like dragging someone uphill while explaining why the view at the top is worth it. You’re pouring energy into trying to change someone’s mind instead of allowing them to choose for themselves.
But here’s the truth: Convincing creates resistance. Invitation creates curiosity
When you try to convince someone, you’re meeting them at the level of their doubt. You’re trying to overpower their hesitation with logic or persuasion. But people don’t buy from logic—they buy from energy. They buy from resonance.
What if you stopped convincing and started inviting?
The Energy of Convincing vs. Inviting
Convincing sounds like:
- “You need this.”
- “If you don’t do this, you’ll miss out.”
- “Here are all the reasons why this works.”
It’s a push. It’s loaded with urgency and scarcity. And most people instinctively pull back when they feel pushed.
Inviting sounds like:
- “What if this could make your life easier?”
- “What would shift for you if this actually worked?”
- “Would you like to explore this with me?”
It’s a pull. It sparks curiosity. It creates space for the other person to lean in instead of pushing them into a corner.
Why Invitation Works Better.
- It Honors Free Will
When you invite instead of convince, you’re not trying to control the outcome. You’re giving the other person space to choose. And when people feel free to choose, they’re more likely to engage deeply. - It Shifts the Energy from Need to Value
Convincing comes from lack—it’s trying to fill a gap. Inviting comes from confidence —it’s sharing value. When you approach people from a place of “I know this works,” they feel that certainty. And certainty is magnetic. - It Creates Curiosity, Not Resistance
An invitation leaves room for someone to wonder, What if this could work for me?
Curiosity is the most powerful opener—because once someone is curious, they’re
already leaning in.
How to Shift from Convincing to Inviting
- Stop Over-Explaining
If you feel yourself over-explaining or justifying, stop. If they don’t get it right away,
that’s okay. Let the energy speak louder than your words. - Use Open-Ended Questions
Instead of telling people why they need what you’re offering, ask them:
“What’s working in your life right now?”
“What’s not working?”
“What would shift for you if this changed?”
Open questions create engagement. When people feel like you’re interested in them (not just the sale), they open up. - Detach from the Outcome
Not everyone will choose what you’re offering—and that’s fine. Your job isn’t to close every person you meet; your job is to keep offering and let the right people choose you. - Trust the Energy
When you know what you’re offering works, you don’t need to push it. Confidence in the product, the service, or the offering creates a natural magnetism. When you trust the energy, it becomes easier for others to trust it too.
What If It Could Be Easier?
You don’t need to push. You don’t need to explain your value to death. You don’t need to convince anyone of anything.
Just invite.
And let them lean in.
Or not.
Because when you invite instead of convince, the right people will show up—and they’ll stay because they chose it.
Ready to explore more? Join my next class and discover how to create magnetic invitations that sell without pushing