Choosing Happiness and Wrongness Cannot Exist in the Same Universe
Choosing Happiness and Wrongness Cannot Exist in the Same Universe
“Happiness is not the absence of problems, but the refusal to be defined by them.” — Unknown
We’ve been sold a lie: that happiness and wrongness can coexist. That you can somehow be happy while simultaneously believing you are wrong at the core of your being. But here’s the truth — choosing happiness and holding onto wrongness are fundamentally incompatible. They occupy two entirely different energetic frequencies. When you make yourself wrong — for your choices, your body, your thoughts, your desires — you trap yourself in a loop of self-judgment. And judgment is the fastest way to kill happiness.
Why Wrongness and Happiness Cannot Coexist
Wrongness breeds contraction. It makes you shrink, hesitate, and second-guess yourself. Happiness, on the other hand, is an expansion — a lightness. When you’re choosing happiness, there’s no room for the heaviness of wrongness. It’s not that you stop making mistakes — it’s that you stop making yourself wrong for them.
Think of it like this: wrongness is the background noise that keeps you from hearing the music of your life. The more you try to fix yourself, the louder the noise gets — and the further you drift from happiness.
The Cost of Holding Onto Wrongness.
- You sabotage opportunities because you assume you’ll fail.
- You hesitate in relationships because you think you’re not enough.
- You downplay your success because you think you don’t deserve it.
Wrongness is a cage you build around yourself. Happiness is what exists outside of it.
Practical Tools to Choose Happiness Over Wrongness.
- Catch the Judgment
Every time you feel heavy, ask yourself: Am I making myself wrong right now? Judgment often masquerades as “self-improvement.” Notice it. Don’t fight it— just observe it. - Flip the Narrative
When you catch yourself thinking, I shouldn’t have done that, replace it with: What if that choice was exactly what was required? - Choose What Feels Light
Happiness has a signature: it feels light and expansive. Wrongness feels heavy and dense. Start tracking how your body feels — and follow the lightness. - Destroy the Idea of Perfection
You can’t be wrong if there’s no perfect version of you to measure yourself against. Stop chasing the illusion of getting it right — and happiness will have room to show up. - Practice Radical Self-Acknowledgment
Every night, write down three things you handled well that day. Let yourself see that you’re not as wrong as you think you are.
The Breakthrough
Choosing happiness isn’t about eliminating problems — it’s about refusing to let them define you. When you stop making yourself wrong for where you are, who you are, and what you desire — happiness becomes the natural state. Wrongness shrinks you. Happiness expands you. Which one will you choose?
“The moment you stop trying to fix yourself is the moment you become whole.”
Prerna Wadhwa
Notes from my diary